 The usual French stereotype |
| Review Date: February 4, 2004 |
| Reviewer: Carol H., Switzerland |
| My origin is half-French, I spend most of my day in France, travel very often to Paris and my best friends are French or Swiss French. At first I was shocked to discover how very French I actually turn out to be as described in the book, and how the traditions and values that I've been bequeathed are so very French too. But then the word "archetypal" is mentioned in the prologue and you'd better bear in mind all throughout your reading that this book is more about the ideal French woman and how to bring out the archetypal French woman in you rather than a description of what French women actually are like. Though many of my friends and acquaintances fit into the French girl description, I know scores of French women who are nosey, frumpy, tacky and very gauche. Especially if you've never been to France, don't be misled: this book is full of the typical prejudices and stereotypes about the French woman as seen through the gawking eyes of the American outsider. That is, the French woman as we would like to believe she is. There are also some mistakes, like ascribing Madame de Pompadour as Louis XIV's lover (she was Louis XV's)and the fact that many of the women reviewed (Anaïs Nin, Catherine de Medici, Marie Antoinette or Pauline de Rothschild) are not even French. Anyway, the book makes interesting beach reading. The prose is feisty, fast-paced and you'll find it hard to put down. |
Obvious, but still plenty of good girlie fun
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| Review Date: May 10, 2004 |
| Reviewer: PonyExpress, United States |
| While there isn't anything too startingly *new* in this slim volume, I quite liked it, so I'm recommending it to all of you ladies who'd like some very light, frothy non-fiction for that three hour plane trip, or to curl up with just before bed. While a load of these sorts of books abounds right now, this author comes to her task honestly: she lived in France for 10 years, and from her likeable photo on the back cover, she's the kind of american everywoman whose point of view really might come in handy for those of us who wouldn't mind picking up a little french style. I thought her take on french women was admiring withOUT lapsing into the sort of "self-hating american" all-things-european adoration I've seen plenty of in various fashion magazines. Really a collection of ruminations on what it means to be french. And sociologists take note: her pages on the VERY different approach frenchwomen take to interpersonal relations(when meeting a new person/potential gal pal, general socializing, office demeanor, etc.)are from my limited experience absolutely on the money. In addition to the entertainment value, I'm going to try to adopt the described "french" qualities of self-restraint in gabbing, at least; I'm sure my success will be limited, but every little soupcon helps! |
It is a bit too much
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| Review Date: April 6, 2006 |
| Reviewer: Sylvain, |
| I am a French myself, I've noticed that there are a lot of books to teach people out there "how to be French", "how to eat like French", "why French are so great", for me, it is very strange. Of course France is a great place with all those history, food, museums, culture. But we also have a lot of bad things. So prasing French all the time is a bit non sense and it really makes us French more arrogant. (Yes, we are too arrogant and proud of ourselves). Even being a French myself, I have to admit it. We should learn to respect other culture and people. But all these books are making us feel like privilage. There is another book called" French women don't get fat". To be honest, we have a lot of fat people in Paris, a lot of women out there are not slim or as elegant as the books described. These books making the girls here feel like they are godness, which is bad. More and more people here are thinking they are the best. But the fact is, we have high unemployment rate, our streets, metros are so dirty, our people don't want to face the reality. We love to enjoy life too much, but we are too lazy to earn money to support ourselves and we are rejecting other culture. So wake up, we are all equal. Don't let our surface fool you. |
The Book We Hate to Love
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| Review Date: January 15, 2004 |
| Reviewer: , |
| What is it? Surprisingly profound for a fashion manual. Lightweight for a philosophical treatise. Debra Ollivier takes us by the hand and leads us along a delightful path of discovery of daily life in the venerable French culture. Her intimate knowledge of the French as a wife, mother and long-term resident there, yet from an American perspective, takes us to places no French person could ever see. Implied in her book is the notion that the French girl's tradition-starved American cousine could benefit from lessons on slowing down and getting to know and love herself a little better. From her unique perspective, straddled between two cultures, she offers us a feasible model for a pleasant way of life that has stood the test of time. Could it be that less is really more, and that we can make do with not so much in a sensuous, rich, beautiful way rather than only through Spartan suffering? We may wonder what happened to the flip side of the coin (racism a la Le Penn for example?), but can't help but enjoy her astute observations and entertaining style and don't mind having our thoughts provoked, even if it is just a little bit. I for one am glad tht she so eloquently documented her unique experience and quite enjoyed the book once I forgave it for not meeting any expectations of what I thought it should have been. |
Loved this book!
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| Review Date: November 5, 2003 |
| Reviewer: Jennifer Hughes, Dallas, TX |
| This is the first book I have read cover to cover in ages! Once I picked it up, I could not put it down. It is brimming with insights on French culture and offers advice on how to incorporate some French etiquette/style into your own life. For example, while most American women will form some sort of bond within a few minutes of meeting each other on a park bench (which usually leads to confiding intimate details of your life to a person you met a half hour ago), French women are much more guarded about what they say, when they say it, and who they even speak with. In other words, think before you speak. Don't divulge your life story within a few hours or even days of meeting someone new. Keep quiet and you will also keep an air of mystery to you. I recommend this book to anyone who is interested in the way French women handle themselves and their daily lives. A side note: Ever wonder how French can take those extra long lunches you always hear about? The book mentions that a 35 hour workweek is the law in France. Also, French citizens receive at least 4 weeks of PAID vacation per year! Mandatory! Oh, the luxeries! |
Can you explain why the men need mistress ?
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| Review Date: February 10, 2004 |
| Reviewer: , |
I lived in Taiwan, this book about French "girls"could easily apply to the Taiwanese "girls". But let me add my 2 cents of thought. Through the book it mentions all the time that most french guy has a mistress (the same in Taiwan). If a french girl is all that, is a marvelous girl with high standards, can you explain how a "wonderful, svelte, smart, etc etc "French girl who according to the book, just get into anything if there is quality in it, got into a non quality relationship that requires that her husband to have a mistress so the texture of the family will be rich, according to the author ?
Let me set straight, American women may be described as frumpy, just wear flat shoes, and sweaters, whatever, but the average American "girl"certainly does not need to comform herself that her husband needs a mistress out of marriage.
So the quality that French girls put in their relationship, dressing, high heel shoes (Prada if possible) is a waste of time. Let me add one more cent. Many women worldly have been asked the same question: "What did he saw in her ? " when they see their guys getting a mistress that is not perfectly svelte, has wrinkles all over, is frumpy (remember Lady Di and Prince Charles and of course, the famous Camilla).
Like Lady Di, peoples in the society sell the women the message that to be successful, loved, happy, you need to be really svelte, have a perfect no. 6 size , go under the knife, glicolic acid, whatever so your guy will stick around. This profits only the peoples in the business. Believe that the old proverb "Love is in the eyes of the beholder"is a really useful one when you are about to invest in a dress, shoe, beauty products, etc. There is no formula to be a wonderful "girl", just be yourself (size 6, 8, or even 22), instead of aiming to be a French, American or whatever race of girl. These formulas are funny to read but frankly, they don't work in real life. |
A France that never existed
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| Review Date: September 2, 2005 |
| Reviewer: Hans Hansen, Copenhagen, Denmark |
I found this book a disappointment. As a French speaker and a frequent visitor to France, I was eager to see another American's view on French style.
This author, however, describes a France that exists only in her imagination. "French girls" are naturally thin and never have a moment of self-doubt. Every meal they consume is a home-made rhapsody of fresh ingredients. When they get old, they live in a paradise of red lipstick, Chanel suits and poodles, surrounded by well-behaved grandchildren and enjoying daily chats with their neighborhood butcher and baker.
The last time I checked, every drugstore in Paris had huge posters pushing cellulite-shrinking creams to those thin, secure women. "Quick", the world's worst fast food chain (baked hamburgers!) has hundreds of outlets in France. And in 2003, the summer that this was book published, hundreds of elderly Frenchmen and women died alone in their apartments during a punishing heat wave. The government had trouble getting relatives to return from vacation long enough to collect the bodies.
Look, I like France and I have nothing against the French. But this lead-footed author - her "humor" reminds me of a high-school newspaper - writes about French women with a passionate crush, as if they can do no wrong. Her own country comes off like a loathed ex-husband. Americans, apparently are crude, fat, poorly dressed, and deservedly miserable. "How many breakfast cereals do Americans need to be happy?" she quotes a French visitor as saying.
I'm glad the other correspondents enjoyed this book, but I didn't. I usually pass on my books to a girlfriend or to charity, but this one I may just throw away. |
Entertaining and Fun
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| Review Date: June 11, 2003 |
| Reviewer: Diana F. Von Behren, Kenner, LA USA |
Ollivier's 'Entre Nous' is a fun book to read; its akin to being Sabrina, rushing off to a mental France to learn a little sophistication and buy some wonderfully chic clothes that will never go out of style. All the stars awarded for this book are mostly due to the wonderful compendium of "asides" that the author sprinkles magazine-wise throughout the text in the form of French Girl Biographies (Audrey Tatou and Edith Piaf come to mind), French films which exemplify certain French lifestyle traits to the max, recipes, and a colorful melange of other varied topics which range from 'what a French girl has in her closet' to 'what she keeps in her refrigerator.' Every one of these little sidebars are a delight to read and will fuel your own need to make the little things in life memorable and full of the joy of knowing that what you do is well done.
However the main text which categorizes such priceless accoutrements to a life well lived as French strikes me as unrealistic, albeit still fun. Many women of varied ethnicities can be attributed with that charismatic 'je ne sais quoi' that can be as heady and delicious as plunging your nose in a thousand fresh roses. Ollivier directs most of her admonitions to her Anglo-Saxon compatriots--but to think that all American women are of Anglo Saxon descent or worse, to think that all American women are Anglo Saxon wannabees, sadly misrepresents the majority of women in the United States. As an Italian American New Yorker, many of the tips and secrets Ollivier defines as solely 'French' are second nature to me--yet I am still an American. Comparing the sterotype of a swelte French woman, cigarette dangling, beret, striped leotard, tight-black skirt-wearing to the stereotype of the All-American cheerleader who would kill for football tickets is fine for those of us who were all American cheerleaders and love sports--I, for one, was not and do not, and I find it amusing, and charming that most of the things dictated in this book are now not considered foreign or too different, but actually desirable and exotic!!!! I guess our pluralistic society does work in that it offers choices rather than conformity.
I also find it strange that even though Ollivier demands that we 'be ourselves' proudly, she benchmarks 'French' traits as those which every woman would wish to aspire. Again, I find it okay to agree or disaggree--if Madame B. accepts her husband's indiscretions, why should I care? What I do is my own business and not for public consumption--is this a French idea? NO, I am not French, simply wise enough to know that you cannot change people. Ollivier's stereotypical French girl exists in all of us in bits and pieces. Yet, let's face it, she conforms to her idea of what she needs to be in her own environment. If we are comfortable enacting a repressed Anglo-Saxon persona it is probably because this is what was taught from the cradle and what our neighbors enact--does Ollivier expect an instant resolution to change? How can one be oneself and change due to advise given in a book? Impossible unless an environment change results.
The section I enjoyed the most was the one dedicated to food. I know the French enjoy eating with gusto; many courses of rich food all washed down with large quantities of red wine. Fat and cholesterol are never considered and certainly not mentioned---why ruin a good meal? Can you imagine a French woman measuring her food to adhere to the principles of the Zone? Or not eating certain foods because of her blood type? Yet, as the author states, the French woman looks nothing like her American counterpart as she ages; she may change with time, but not in the dramatic way an American does. Why? What is the secret? In a nutshell, food enhances one's life--but one does not live to eat. Ollivier states that food shopping is done everyday--not as a chore, but as a way of life--socializing with those who provide food for your table. No cars necessary, walking, conversing and choising are leisurely activities--no stress associated with 'running errands'. Only the freshest food is purchased; the ensuing meal revolves around what is seasonable, fresh and readily available. Little is left over or stocked in the refrigerator; the French woman buys only what she needs, never more. Portions are then only portions; no meals-in-a-box with preservatives are utilized at all. Although this explanation has been pointed out before by many other writers, dieticians and health care providers, Ollivier encapsulizes the concept with fun food for thought.
Bottom line: This book is fun to read and provides many enjoyable suggestions for film-viewing ideas and other streamlining projects (closet and refrigerator in particular). I do not think it is meant to be taken very seriously. Perhaps, you, like me, will enjoy the tribute to individuality and rather than adapt to so-called French ways, celebrate fully what is different about yourself---you never know, you may be writing your own book someday sharing all your own personal secrets! |
Franchement.....
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| Review Date: August 20, 2003 |
| Reviewer: Jacinthe Grandmont, Longueuil, Quebec Canada |
| Je suis Française, du Canada, mais Française tout de même. Je déplore ce genre de bouquin. Que de stéréotypes! La beauté du genre humain est dans ses différences, donc mesdemoiselles et mesdames des États-Unis, appréciez qui vous êtes dans votre culture et dans vos qualités plutôt que de chercher à ressembler à ce qui n'est pas VOUS. Soyez fières d'être Américaines comme je suis fière d'être Canadienne-Française et jetez ce livre à la poubelle. Votre façon d'être toute naturelle et votre personnalité, si vous l'assumez et vous l'aimez, fera de vous quelqu'un qui a ce "je ne sais quoi". Croyez en vous-mêmes, pas en un livre... I am French from Canada, but anyway, I'm French. I deplore that kind of book. So many stereotypes! The beauty of human gender is is its differences, so, Miss and Misses from USA, appreciate who you are and do not try to look like someone else. Be proud of being American like I'm proud of being French-Canadian and put this book in garbage. Your natural way of being yourself and your personnality, if you assume it and if you like it, will make you the person with that "je ne sais quoi". Believe in yourself, not in a book... And I'm sorry for my poor translation. |
ENTRE NOUS: A Woman's Guide to Finding Her Inner French Gir
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| Review Date: April 11, 2003 |
| Reviewer: , |
| This book is charming and smart and though-provoking. It didn't play into the stereotypes of French women, rather it pulled back the diaphanous curtain that has long obscured real and valuable insights about them. I'm no Francophile--I'm as American as they come. But this book made me think about lots of little corners of my life in a different light. Do I need all this stuff? Is this stuff the truest expression of who I am? Does this stuff make my life better or does it just get in the way of my real life experience? I loved the author's observations about the real qualities that distinguish the French girl: Not her stylish clothes but her self-containment and sensuality and discretion. Not her mysterious allure but her deeply ingrained sense of time and quality and authenticity. And I loved the wonderful snips of stories about the author's French girlfriends and the very human ways they express these qualities. This book isn't self help, it's self exploration of a uniquely pleasurable kind. |
Entres Nous - What American Women Can Learn from the French!
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| Review Date: July 12, 2003 |
| Reviewer: , |
| I picked up this book by chance and couldn't put it down...it's a delight to read! Sure, it plays into stereotypes but there is always some truth to stereotypes, non? I also don't think the author intended for this to be a serious lesson in revamping your American self. Instead, I think she wanted to provide casual insight into what American women can take away from their French counterparts. Dieting, mass consumption - these are very American concepts. The reason the French don't have the problems with body image that we do is because they're much more about appreciating who they are and enjoying things without swinging to extremes on the pendulum. While we deprive ourselves of butter and desserts - yet still have the highest rates of obesity - the French indulge in rich, delicious foods but they do so in moderation. Americans who subscribe to this feast or famine, all or nothing mentality need to take a page out of the French book on moderation. The moderate tendencies of the French can also apply to clothing. In America, there is a tendancy to buy as much as we can at the blowout sale. Ollivier decribes how the French woman builds her wardrobe slowly and carefully with select items that flatter her. She only pulls out her wallet when she sees something she really wants and can afford that will also enhance her wardrobe - in the longterm. Not a bad lesson for those of us with credit card debt and a closet full of mediocre clothing that either doesn't flatter us or is yesterday's trend bought in large quantity at the chain store's last big sale. The book also covers relationships, friendships, entertaining, work, and the home. While you might not be inclined to do everything that a French woman might do, you may find some gems that work for you. Since reading the book, I know I think twice now when I feel this urge to rush through my meal to get onto the next task. I also spend a little more time enjoying my coffee and reading and a little less time worrying about time and schedules. Overall, Entre Nous is entertaining, lighthearted advice for any American woman who is looking to enjoy more with less. Yes, "the joie de vivre" is something that we all deserve to have a little more of, French or not. |
I admit it... I love this book.
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| Review Date: October 23, 2006 |
| Reviewer: Hallie, |
Ah yes, another book on how to completely rejuvinate your inner, better, more stylish, thinner, attractive self-- in French (ooh la la)! Well... not quite.
The premise of this book is not how to reinvent yourself, but how to discover yourself. The means to self-discovery the author expresses are through 1) quality, not quantity, 2) authenticity 3) self-esteem 4) appreciation of history. These main themes are delivered through charming vignettes of French life, be it their cinema, literature, famous women, or famous cuisine.
Each chapter discusses the various (and applicable) ways French women maintain their head, their hearts, their bodies, their kitchens and their relationships. Though Ollivier (rightfully) concedes the diversity of mannerisms, shapes and sizes of French women, she asserts that a few elements of French women are the same. Namely, French women tend not to have drastic makeovers, but are deeply rooted in their sense of self, culture, and intuition. Many French women have pride in their history, family, and guard their words carefully. They don't form bonds with others with such rapidity as Americans. They cook with little regard to fat content, but great regard to quality and freshness of ingredients. They shop for quality, durability, and longevity vs the price or spur-of-the-moment.
Does Ollivier stereotype? Yes and no. She hedges her words carefully enough that no one could say she dichotomizes the groups too starkly, but perhaps more importantly, she does state the benefits of American perspectives and French perspectives.
Being someone who is assertive and confident in her identity, I wouldn't have read this book except for the extra credit it provided in my college French course. Ironically, I wouldn't offer this book to anyone who ISN'T confident in who they are. For those who do have a strong sense of self, this book explains that such confidence is not arrogant or snobbery: it is French and it is fabulous. Finally, there's a woman's self-help book providing guidance for those who need no help or guidance at all. |
Fine Frothy Nonfiction
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| Review Date: April 21, 2005 |
| Reviewer: Alouette1, USA |
This was great and I love how another reviewer called it "frothy nonfiction." That describes it perfectly well. I have a large family and my bathroom is off limits. I go in there to read. This is in there and I have enjoyed it! Obviously the author is in the upper crust of society where all of her friends have roots in the country and have a place to retreat to-- but I like reading about *that class*-- I would not read about moms with big families who suffer through difficult situations to have fun. This was a fun read.
I started finding my "inner Frenach girl" as soon as I started reading the book. It's easier to find your inner French girl than it is to emmulate Martha Stewart (I love Ms. Stweart-- she is just impossible to try to work in to my life.) I immediately slowed down my dinners because I liked how the French girl takes time to eat and doesn't eat it all at once. My son with special needs tends to gobble his food so I started serving the food course by course instead of all at once. It worked. He even likes me serving the cheese at the end of the meal and is trying hard to eat nicely.
The French girl has limited space, the author says. I started thinking like I lived in Paris in a small apartment and actually got some rooms decluttered and clothes out of the house. Dressing nice is easy when you have five or six really nice things to change around your wardrobe.
My daughter was about to break up with her first boyfriend-- she read how *the French girl* views relationships and she handled it with class and finesse.
What impressed me was how this was going to be a fun read but it would up being a catalyst for making some nice adjustments in my life! I reccomend it for being fun to read but also, if you want to add flare to areas where you'd felt dull, it is inspiring. |
Recommended for insight to French culture.....
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| Review Date: June 14, 2004 |
| Reviewer: S. Hale, California, United States |
Olivier is an enthusiastic and adoring commentator on culture of upper class France with good insight on this refined and ancient society. And her description of the concrete support the French government gives to families (maternal leave, affordable child care) puts the self-righteous lip service of our government to shame. I think this would be an excellent book to read before visiting France, if only to assure that you don't add to the myth of the "Ugly American Abroad".
However, if you are an American girl who, amazingly, manages to live with style, discretion and good food despite the lack of exposure to France, prepare to feel a little incredulous at the white-hot adoration with which Olivier describes her French girl while asserting her (and the French's) fondness for her description of the overly enthusiastic puppy-sish, sweats-clad, Velveeta-munching American girl. (Velveeta? I've never bought Velveeta in my life!)
As a native of California who has found much style, grace, and rituals of good food in my home region as did my sister Californians, M.F.K. Fischer and Julia Child, I am pleased that Olivier has found such joy in her culture by marriage. However, I hope I do not sound too jingoistic when I say that in her very acceptance and appreciation of the French culture (a very American/Californian trait) Olivier tends to treat her native culture with thinly veiled condescension ....a very French trait. |
Entre nous, forget it
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| Review Date: April 9, 2003 |
| Reviewer: Dbmsewer, Springfield, VA United States |
| I gave this book two stars because it was entertaining, but I have rarely encountered a book that so audaciously promotes stereotypes. I got this book with great hopes because I'm in love with Paris and am of French descent and wanted to know if there really was a something that makes French women different. But I found the book lacks substance so it didn't tell me much that I did not know. It offers readers a snapshot of life with some of Ollivier's female friends, all of whom appear to come from priviledge, nobility or very old families. While it is true that women in Paris - as is the case of women in most big cities - are chic, you cannot categorize the women of an entire nation based on this author's experience. Her friends inhabit 18th Century apartments and weekend in family-owned chateau in the ountryside (and their husbands have mistresses, which they simply accept with a shrug because, after all, a man has his needs and I suppose fidelity isn't one of them). But this is simply ridiculous and I doubt all French women shrug off a cheating spouse any more than they all inherit country chateaux. There is poverty, dirt, crime and some pretty shabby looking clothes, just as you'll find in any city. There's McDonald's, department stores (and yes, the French girl does shop in them), too many Sephora chains and some darned ugly footwear. Overall, this book is a fun and light read but there are no real secrets to being a French girl revealed here, except that style must come from within, and most of us know that already. The author refers the reader to movies and books that are worth exploring, probably the only value that you will find here. |
Chubby Italian Girl finds her inner Chic French Girl
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| Review Date: May 25, 2005 |
| Reviewer: Emilie, |
I love this book. It has a permanent place on my bedside table next to a book of Rimbaud's poetry and "Chocolat" by Joanne Harris. I have always admired French Chic and have been on a constant quest to find that nirvana. When I picked up this book a few years ago, I tooks its advice to heart on how to eat, dress, have friends, and decorate my home. The emphasis is quality over quantity. If you have a red silk blouse in your closet that clashes with your skin tone- get rid of it. Invest in classic pieces that you know work well on you. Don't waste your time and money on vitamins, drink real orange juice for vitamin C, have fresh spinach for iron. Don't throw your heart into meaningless relationships with people who won't remember you next week, instead nurture and cultivate the long-time friendships that you know have stood up to the trials of life. Your home is your personal space, give it history, YOUR history.
It's a long journey and I am still working on improving myself, and while this book has some of the answers, the real solution is within yourself. This book is merely a map along the way. |
Fresh Take on the French
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| Review Date: April 18, 2003 |
| Reviewer: , |
| ENTRE NOUS provides new insight into what makes French women tick. Debra Ollivier's specific examples of her own French friends, excellent movie and book recommendations and even recipes make this a light, fun read while being informative. And she's not gushingly adoring of the French - she provides a balanced look at at what works and doesn't work for both French and American women. I especially liked the comparisons. Of course there is poverty (and McDonald's) in France but this book fulfills its purpose of examining the chic French women many admire and would like to emulate. |
Ooh la la!
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| Review Date: June 7, 2005 |
| Reviewer: A.R.G., East Coast, USA |
| After reading "French Women Don't Get Fat," I expected this book to be similar: another insultingly Eurocentric and unfavorable comparison of skinny, sophisticated French girls and dumpy, awkward Americans. Fortunately I found something completely different. "Entre Nous" celebrates both French and American women, their good qualities and their endearing idiosyncrasies, and shows how they can learn from each other. The emphasis, of course, is on analyzing and picking up the charm of the French girl, but the methods are less condescending to Americans than those of "French Women Don't Get Fat." Ollivier says that French girls can be curvy, too--it is their confidence in their bodies, no matter what they look like, that gives them their appeal. In addition, the book goes far past the obvious topic of the body in discussing the allure of the Parisienne; her romantic and social tendencies are also illuminated, helping the reader to gain a better understanding of the psyche of the French girl, instead of a mere superficial overview of her eating habits. The author's cute anecdotes add flavor to the text as well--one of my favorites comments slyly on the French view of nudity and involves a shocked Ollivier's realization that at a French gynecologist, paper robes and privacy are completely new ideas. I would recommend this book to anyone curious about our French sisters or even just looking for a light, fun summer read. The author's breezy, descriptive prose and openminded attitude definitely make it worth your while. |
The Power of Observation
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| Review Date: October 7, 2003 |
| Reviewer: Patty McDonough Kennedy, New York, New York |
| This book is an entertaining and thought-provoking read, but as is true with most of life: what you get out of it, depends on how open you are to its messages and what you choose to take away or learn. As a dual American-European citizen, I have been fortunate to have lived and worked all over the U.S. and Europe and find people's viewpoints, lifestyles, cultural rules and how they do or do not apply them to their lives fascinating. My sense is that the author is not trying to evoke a competition between the French and the American woman, rather she seems to be pointing out what makes women (in this case the French woman) unique and special...and how that uniqueness is conveyed through fashion, lifestyle, and relationships. While the actual prose is light -- which makes for easy, entertaining and lively reading, I believe the author's primary observation is a bit more profound, and that is how the (French)women's character manifests itself through the purposeful choices she makes on a daily basis in order to live in accordance with who she truly is and what she wants. Invest your time/life wisely. But she doesn't hit you over the head with self-help dribble. It's not about tying your scarf a certain way, it's about tying the scarf YOUR way (or making any decision from food, to friends to fashion) that communicates you are a unique, self-possessed, interested, confident and passionate woman....the essence of chic. As a side note, I absolutely disagree with the reviewer who doubted whether a woman of "higher education" would enjoy this book. I have several degrees, but more importantly know that life's most worthwhile lessons, are primarily learned outside of the classroom and through quiet observation - which is the crux of this book. |
the reason why French women are different...
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| Review Date: April 19, 2003 |
| Reviewer: , |
| I have lived in Paris and Cannes for 10 years. Yes French women are different. They care about what they wear, they buy chic not always expensive but simple and elegant, they care what they eat to maintain their thin figure (dont get me wrong they enjoy food and they know what quality food is, they spend hours dinning) they are confident, they enjoy life and they are stylish. They care about and know how to use accessories like Louis Vuitton, Dior, Gucci or any other designer purse which adds style to whatever they wear no matter how cheap in price. Have a look at the book A YEAR OF STYLE to get more familiar with French women and they way they celeberate life. And excuse my English! |
Vignettes of French wisdom in an entertaining package
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| Review Date: January 25, 2005 |
| Reviewer: Evin, Ireland |
This book expresses basic philosophies that seem to escape our daily existence. Through stories, antidotes, and profiles of admirable French women, this book can help you come to realize that one perfectly simple and elegant little black dress is better than a handful or mediocre ones. 'Tis better to spend your life with good friends, good food, and good belongings instead of passing the years with things that are stop-gap acceptions. I enjoy how the book helps to explain methods to find happiness that do not come from the pursuit and collection of an abundance of things that are meant to bring happiness, but miss the mark.
This book was given to me as a gift after I had spent some time in France. While there, I developed a love of French fashion and food, but also learned that there was this essence to French culture that made culture and pursuit of happiness top priorities. It was hard to keep that in my day-to-day life in the States, but this book reminded me of the basics. If you feel that "freedom" should replace all things "French", this book may not be for you. But I think it is a worthwhile read and I keep it on my bedside bookshelf. |
It wasn't a bad read.
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| Review Date: December 25, 2003 |
| Reviewer: R. van Tonder, UK |
| After reading the many glowing reviews about this book, I bought this expecting it to offer a few deep insights and perspectives into the French way of life (from a woman's point of view). This book didn't do that. The prose is simple (a bit too simplistic at times) and the insights although interesting, didn't go far enough into the core of each subject presented. The chapters are arranged according to each facet of life - style, food, home, work, etc. and each chapter is laden with delightful anecdotes and suggested reading or movies that will certainly have me making trips to the library or bookshop whenever I have spare time to invest in some French "cultural education". I read this book from cover to cover in less than a day, and although I gleaned some good information about how to live a better quality of life, its basically quite common-sense knowledge like "cook your own food with the freshest ingredients" or "take time to do things and enjoy life, don't rush." (I guess I need those little reminders sometimes on taking time out and enjoying life, otherwise I forget!) At times, the author almost borders on being a self-help-book writer, which is a little grating. The author also sounds to me very "politically correct", in the sense that she often closes up each chapter with patronising comments about the American culture after she had previously been gushing enthusiastically (with praises no-end) about how much better the French do things, compared to the Americans who don't seem to "use as much discretion in their private lives" or "dress with quality", etc. Still, my criticisms for the book don't outweigh the enjoyment I got from reading it. It is a light-hearted, relaxing read for those after-dinner, just-before-bedtime moments... I can't say I've really regretted buying this, although this is the sort of thing which would have been far better given as a gift, rather than bought as an addition to one's own existing collection of books. The book is nicely decorated and packaged, hardback, and will make a perfect "girly" gift for a good friend. |
J'ai adoré ce livre ! (I adored this book!)
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| Review Date: July 3, 2005 |
| Reviewer: Lisa Taylor Huff, Paris, France (formerly a "Jersey Girl") |
Since I was a little girl, I have wanted to be French. (Sigh.) But I'm not French. I'll never BE French, even if I attain citizenship and live in France for the next 30 years. But reading this book, I found a way to do a darn good job of FEELING more French.
Because, as you'll learn in the book, you can find the French girl WITHIN you, whether you're living in France or not. It's an attitude, a life philosphy, that sets French women apart from others. It's not about being snooty or thinner or any other stereotypes we often assume about the French... it's about how you see yourself, and carrying yourself in a way that reflects your inner confidence in your perfection; a knowing that you are already perfect NOW, just the way you are. |
Mais Oui
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| Review Date: April 10, 2003 |
| Reviewer: Roselynn Fisher, Los Angeles, CA |
| I loved this little book. I bought it for a friend but ended up keeping it for myself (and buying another one for her). It's a gem of a book that goes past all the silly stereotypes we're familiar with: yes, French women are all thin and they don't snack... but despite a few clichés, Entre Nous is a little glimpse into French culture - and more than that it focuses on the more intangible aspects of the French woman as a way of being. In a lighthanded way, Ollivier offers bits of sage advice (like how to slow down and have a life) to us multi-tasking Americans. Despite all the anti-French hype these days ("Freedom fries?" - give me a break), French culture and particularly French women - timelessly represent something we equate with taste and allure. After reading Entre Nous I was craving a walk through a garden, a simple black dress and a candlelit bath... |
For Francophiles or anyone wishing to live more elegantly
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| Review Date: July 12, 2004 |
| Reviewer: Karen Beth Martin, Oxford, MS, USA |
| I finished this book last night and could easily keep it on hand as a reference for wonderful, conscious, elegant, sophisticated living. (Unfortunately, I borrowed it from the library and have to take it back. :( ) While this book doesn't cover many things I would have liked to known, you read the last page with an indirect knowledge of how a French girl would act in most situations. The best thing I got from this book (I took notes as I read) was a wealth of names of French people to look up (Pauline de Rothschild), French movie recommendations (Milou en Mai), French books to read, including wonderful cookbooks to peruse (Mastering the Art of French Cooking), and entertaining tips. Read this book and savor all the wonderful things that can be learned from it. For anyone interested in a fresh take on life! |
Deeper than I thought! 3 cheers, 5 stars!
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| Review Date: August 27, 2003 |
| Reviewer: , |
| At first, I wondered if this would be another lightweight book praising the mythical French Woman and how she can tie a scarf. Mais non. It is one of the best self-help books, for American women in general, that I have ever read. Getting below the surface of cosmetics and clothes (though these ARE important), the author highlights the intellect of the French woman, and how this sets her apart from the American woman. There is SO much more to the French Paradox. We Americans are FAR more addicted to appearances and the surface of things; we do not take time to get as deep as our European sisters. We think that if we look good and are "physically fit and thin" we have done our work. This book shows us that French "style" begins in the mind and not on the body. Merci!! |
it's interesting...vraiment
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| Review Date: January 29, 2004 |
| Reviewer: , |
okay, so this isn't the most important book you'll ever read. it's not going to change your life or make you re-evaluate it even. but it's fun. AND it's more than that.
when i first saw the title to this book, i thought: hmmm, that sounds interesting, and so i checked it out of the library. in retrospect i would have bought it. on the shelf, i thought it was probably very silly and self-indulgent, which, of course, it is. the problem with certain reviewers is expecting it to be more than that. but i anticipated an insight, maybe two, and i ended up with a library book of post-it'd pages. it's good, and it's fun. if you have the money, spend it. |
Balancing act
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| Review Date: August 18, 2006 |
| Reviewer: K. B. Fenner, Columbia, SC USA |
| Ollivier is an American who is married to a Frenchman and lived in France as a relative insider for ten years. Her observations are fascinating as sociology alone. Her advice is very valuable for this typical over-achieving self-improving self-effacing German-American woman. Of course, it is ironic to read a self-help book that tells you to imprrove yourself by not trying to improve yourself, but the advice is wise. Having only travelled to Paris and known but a few French people, it did ring true as far as the stereotypical French style. It also rang true that pleasing yourself is far wiser, and I find, more attractive than doormat pretzeling yourself to change to please others. Be cool; be French. |
Honestly about 3.5 stars, but a fun, light read
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| Review Date: December 23, 2005 |
| Reviewer: Asunsetorange, Sunny Florida |
| This was an informative little book, I don't think to be taken too seriously. Just a bunch of information to compare how you live to how many French people live. I will admit that there is a lot we can learn from the European cultures, as they are already masters of their cultures. That's what makes this kind of read fun -- seeing if there are customs or mindsets you may want to introduce into your lifestyle to give it a little spice. Nothing wrong there. I did enjoy learning about their social system and healthcare. Wish we cared as much about our mothers/children here. I always say take away what's good and works for you and discard the rest. I am not interested in becoming French, but I love finding little details that can enhance your life. |
More than I expected!
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| Review Date: February 25, 2006 |
| Reviewer: Jodi Warrick, St. Louis, MO. |
| This book was so much more than I expected. A fun, easy read than made me examine how much our culture really dictates our lives as women, moms, wives and lovers. What I gained most from the book was the ideas of social eating. We now have a sit down breakfast in the morning with little to no extra trouble, but has changed our mornings into a calmer more unified morning. I stoped defining myself as the tipicle American running in all directions, mom of three children under the age of five. We can savor each moment...and no more starbucks to go. I now go sit, ask for a mug to drink my cofee in and truly enjoy those extra calories. |
Must be read with champagne flute in hand
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| Review Date: June 18, 2004 |
| Reviewer: , Minneapolis, MN United States |
| This book was so fun! I read it very leisurely during a span of 3 or 4 days. Is it a realistic portrayal of the French Girl? Probably not, but it reminded me to slow down and savour each sensory moment, regardless of what people think. |
A fun read
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| Review Date: October 6, 2006 |
| Reviewer: Zoe Paris, Beverly Hills, CA USA |
| I am half French and I had an old-school European grandmother growing up who spoke 7 languages. A lot of what she said can be found in this book! She was an elegant lady and would have appriciated this book, she was always complaining how tacky Americans look. I liked the theme and ambiance of the book. I thought it was a cute, light read and not too serious. However, I also felt the author was a little idealistic at times and put the French up on a pedestal. There are problems in France just like everywhere else and there are tacky women there too, just like everywhere else. Also people in Europe in general don't bathe as much and sometimes don't shave their armpits! This is no insult to Europeans, I love Europe and my whole family was born there. It's just different from America and sometimes this is good, other times it's bad. I think the author was going for the romanticized version of what people think France is like, rather than pure reality. Beverly Hills is no picnic and it's full of shallow old ladies with too many facelifts, Hollywood is a sleazy dump with tons of crime and France can be a dirty, snooty and annoying place. If you take out the bad parts of these places and leave in the wonderful romanic stuff you could write a similar book about anywhere in the world. France can be elegant, refined and beautiful but like anywhere else it has issues. This was a fun book to read if you want something lighthearted. It has great fashion and lifestyle tips. If you plan to visit France though, don't expect this book to prepare you! |
What a fun read for a change!!
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| Review Date: August 5, 2005 |
| Reviewer: Sarah Luciani, Phoenix, AZ |
| This book was really a fun read. Debra Ollivier not only spent 10 years living in France, so she is well informed of the customs, but she also has a gifted sense of humour. I really needed this book when I found it. She pokes fun at the American traditions of stuff grease ladden golden arched foods in our mouths while talking on the cell phone and drinking our starbucks racing to the next sale. Non!! French women have Pizzaz, style and a sense of themselves. I was reading one review that made me chuckle, talking about how his wife choses perfume over showers and walks around in silky mu-mus.This book is about French culture, how women are taught to respect the home and authority, how French children are reared and how this helps to create the Women they are. In America we are constantly fixated on the new, becoming better, improving. In France this isn't a forced pursuit, but as natural as aging wine or cheese. They are constantly becoming. Self help? non! These women turn to their elders, more experienced for advice. I felt like I had a great little taste of French life in this book(oh not to mention the food. oh la la !!) I hope you will enjoy it as much as I did. |
Fun read, but take it with a grain of salt
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| Review Date: April 1, 2009 |
| Reviewer: C. Kost, Los Angeles |
| After reading this book I realized that, in some respects, I have already found my inner French girl. In other ways, I never will. This is because my hectic, American life does not allow for things like five weeks of vacation or having two-hour dinners every night that are made from scratch from the freshest ingredients the farmer's market had to offer that day. Although the author arguably has to put forth an ideal (because why the heck would you want to model yourself after something commonplace and mediocre?), the images of the women presented are a bit fantastical. So, French Girl, I will gladly have some of your real butter, but I'm also keeping my bagged salad. |
Let's appreciate our differences.....
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| Review Date: January 29, 2006 |
| Reviewer: MotherLodeBeth, Sierras of California |
Charming, fun and overall an informative book on what a French women is like from the authors perspective. My Mothers family is of French origin, albeit the 1700's, but we have loved it and have family with secondary homes in France. Yet I admit to being a proud Californian whose family with the addition of grandchildren now is seven generations.
Which made the authors digs at the wonderful life we have here in the states a bit irritating. Whatever happened to simply appreciating each others differences? Yes, the French from my perspective have better eating habits. But the author seemed to me to completely ignore the fact that the states are a cornucopia of ethnic, racial, religious and regional wonders, as well as a large land mass.
Its also important in my opinion to read this book with the understanding that the author is writing about a select group of French friends which like any book gives the tone a certain slant.
So there is no 'American' set way of doing things. We are also a young country with a free spirit born of a desire by earlier people to not be staid and class system mode like France and most European countries. Yes, the women she writes about have smaller refrigerators, kitchens, and homes in general. So what?
Yes, the French shut down work to have long meals. But they do not produce like businesses here in the states do. And how many adult women in America want to be referred to as a girl?
The positives American women can learn from the book may be the positives of not talking so much, gossiping or being to open about everything in their lives with people they do not know well. And the word discreet. Be it in sex, money, or any personal information.
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Fun little gem...don't take it too seriously...
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| Review Date: June 2, 2008 |
| Reviewer: Diane Moore, |
Entre Nous begins by the author describing the first French girl that she was in contact with. She dressed well, was intelligent, had style, was sensual, and she felt comfortable in her own body. She didn't really gossip, and she kept her secrets until she knew her for many years.
The author goes on to tell you how to cook, shop, play, work, and love: like a French girl.
There are many tips in between, like: "Borrow a page from the French girl's book: Self Possession." Or, Le Film, Le livre (the book) and French Girls We Love. All of those little tidbits contained some great recommendations, and there were other fun side notes like: who gets vous (formal) and who gets tu.(informal)
Ollivier has created a book that brings out some our defensive qualities. "I love Farmers Markets! I don't wear sweatpants!" I'm sure that not every French girl loves to read, nor does every French girl accept her husbands indiscretions. Maybe not every French man chooses to cheat, either!
You can't write a book about an entire culture and be correct about all of it. Besides, maybe one of the reasons that the French girls have a strong sense of self is because their cultures and traditions have been handed through many generations. Their country has existed for such a long time, whereas, our country is still very new compared to theirs.
Either way, Ollivier ends her book going back to California, so if you are worried that she chooses "them, over us," she must love America as well. She also ended the book with a list with "What the French girl loves about us."
So, don't worry. Put the defenses away. It's a fun, well written book, with some great ideas on how to be a self possessed, strong, stylish woman in general. She gives some good advice. I've read it more than once because it's that enjoyable!
Recommended!
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I gobbled this up (how un-French of me!)
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| Review Date: January 14, 2007 |
| Reviewer: Jennifer Allison, Los Angeles, CA United States |
| What a fabulous and fun little book! I find myself thinking now "How would a French woman do/handle/eat/wear this?" Anything that gives me pause and reminds me that I could be a little more contemplative and refined certainly helps more that hurts, considering the normal chaos of my life. |
Fascinating
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| Review Date: April 28, 2004 |
| Reviewer: , |
I read this book in one afternoon. It is an easy read but the insights into French culture in general, and specically French women, are fascinating.
The overall feeling I was left with was that the attitude of French women influences every aspect of their lives and it has been nurtured throughout their lives. There were some ideas, philosphies and attitudes toward certain areas of one's life that are certainly worth adopting.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I found it entertaining and insightful.
I gave it 4 stars to avoid being typically "overly enthusiastic" as Americans tend to be. |
entre nous
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| Review Date: May 16, 2009 |
| Reviewer: P. D. oravetz, |
i am in france every year. this book has given me a great deal of insight into the people of france. it has given me information on so many areas. i have reread this book may times. i can't wait for her to come out with other books to help guide me and help me understand this culture more fully.
thank you!! |
Absolutely charming.
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| Review Date: September 22, 2003 |
| Reviewer: , |
| This is a delightful little book, dappled with humorous and highly instructive observations. A manifesto for living well more than a screed from a Francophiliac town scold, it is both subtle and gracefully written. I often found myself reading particularly amusing or insightful passages aloud to my husband, who eventually told me that I'd finally found a book that vindicates the way I try to live. |
"French Lessons" Made Easy
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| Review Date: May 24, 2004 |
| Reviewer: Linda Painchaud-Steinman, MA, USA |
| Entre Nous is a delightful, easy read about French women's "certain something". If you find the French intriguing (French WOMEN in particular), you will most likely enjoy this lighthearted look at the culture, lifestyle and attitudes of the women and people of France. Not meant to be taken TOO seriously, this book is the author's personal take on why so much mystery surrounds French women. You may find yourself sharing her point of view by the time you finish reading. Reviewer: Linda Painchaud |
superficial
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| Review Date: February 10, 2005 |
| Reviewer: naoko, |
| I was very disappointed with this book. Although the portrays of French girls the author gives are not wrong, they are more stereotypes. Instead of giving interesting and original observations of French, the auther just gives individual episodes on French girls do this, Americans do that, which are not even original and seem to be like examples that fit those stereotypes. Maybe this will be a good starting point, but if you really want to know why and how French girls do it, there are much better books out like Frederic Fekkai's A Year of Style or Geneviere Antonine Dariaux's A Guide to Elegance. Finally, if you believe that the author knows French in and out because she is married to a French and lived in France for 10 years, as I did when I bought this book, unfortunately it just shows that if someone does not have an observant eye, living ten years does not improve that. |
Cute...
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| Review Date: June 28, 2009 |
| Reviewer: NORA T, California, United States |
| We are fascinated by french women: their joie de vivre, the fact that they "don't get fat", they are "bien dans sa peau" etc... and I'm sure a lot of french women are these things and this book goes on to explain and detail all that. This book is the idolized version of the truth. The reality is not as perfect. But it is a fun read: there are ideas that we can use. I specially like to section about how french women take care of themselves and take pride in their appearance. This book is not meant to be an accurate description of french life, it is meant to be entertaining, fluffy and fun. And it succeeds in being entertaining, fluffy and fun. The 4 stars are due to some redundant passages, otherwise ...cute! |
I have loved reading Entre Nous
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| Review Date: May 18, 2009 |
| Reviewer: Mona Romans, |
| I have found the book Entre Nous to be a fascinating look into the French culture. I recommend this book to others interested in the French country and culture. |
A Clever Guide To The Ideal French Woman
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| Review Date: March 25, 2009 |
| Reviewer: Heaher Deitchman, United States |
I really enjoyed this book. Every few months I take it back out and review some sections that I enjoyed such as specific recipes, cute tidbits about shopping, and even a quote or two.
The book reads easily and lines up well with other books I have read abotu France written from an outsiders point of view. I would recommend this book if you are looking for a jaunty ride through France's eyes. |
If you don't like all things French . . .
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| Review Date: January 15, 2009 |
| Reviewer: TheLadyJeweles, |
| then obviously you won't like this book. That being said, it is more than just a book about "being French." Those who think this book is simply about adopting certain mannerisms to fool yourself and others into believing you are French are completely missing the point. Olliver reveals what's BEHIND the stereotype; certain characteristics and mindsets of the French that are helpful and uplifting and empowering when adopted by anyone of any culture. She says to practice discretion in all choices from clothes to food to relationships and to surround yourself with things you love and that make you happy. She says to cultivate your inner beauty and to be sure of yourself -- who you are and what you like. This is an excellent book for building your self-esteem and making you proud to be a woman of any culture. |
intelligent and interesting
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| Review Date: April 13, 2007 |
| Reviewer: Rachel Voysey, Australia |
| I love this book. I am an avid reader of all things which give insight into the lifestyles of the french who have a fascinating culture and some intresting quirks and ways. I am too often dissappointed with books in this genre however this was an absolutely fabulous read. Written with intelligence and in an easy to read format Ollivier has obviously done her research well and is truly passionate about her subject matter. There are lots of references to guide you towards other books and films on the topic. If your a francophile or would just like some interesting advice on a few different ways of being a modern woman then buy this book. |
Awesome Book!!
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| Review Date: December 28, 2006 |
| Reviewer: B. McCarthy, |
| I loved this book - got it and read it in one day. Love the life, style, and habits of simplicity that the french have. One can only dream..... |
Love the simple, everyday things
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| Review Date: May 9, 2004 |
| Reviewer: A Reader, Richmond, VA United States |
| I found this book informative, as I have never been to France, nor studied French. I am, however, very interested in the lifestyle of a culture who takes pleasure in the simple, everyday 'pleasures'. I also love to cook and eat, and view food and wine as sensual pleasures to savor and enjoy, like the French do. I was hoping to get other ideas from the French to make everyday chores into something that delights me and makes me feel good. I did like the little boxed 'footnotes' Ollivier included all over. Most of them included movies or lists I want to commit to my file for examples of French and simple living...and I do love movies, books, and lists! The reason I gave the book 4 stars out of 5 is, though I really enjoyed the book and will keep it to reread, there are no color pictures. The book could have been so much better had there been photos to 'see', as well. |
One of my favourites!
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| Review Date: April 18, 2006 |
| Reviewer: Elisa M, Montreal, Canada |
| I really love this book and have re-read it a few times already. It's sensual and cheery and great for the self-esteem. It reminds me to enjoy and celebrate my femininity. An absolute joy to read. The recipes are great too! |
Oui, Oui!
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| Review Date: February 10, 2004 |
| Reviewer: D. Elkington, San Francisco |
This book put the nuances of the French mystique into words.
The author generously gives the wanna-be Catherine Denueves (like moi), tips on fashion, philosophy and culture to keep one striving for that je ne sais quoi for years to come.
I can't wait to absorb the recommended books & movies, rid my closet of all drab, functional attire, then high-tail it to Paris to practice! |
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